You’re counting down the days until you say, “I do”, preparing for the ceremony, the guests, and your honeymoon, but have you really prepared for your upcoming commitment? We know you are excited about this new phase of your life;your emotions and stress might be at an all-time high.All your focus would be on planning your picture-perfect wedding.All said and done, it’s easy to let the actual relationship fade to the background. Historically, premarital counselling was offered by members of a religious community to engaged couples before their wedding and has been shown to improve the rates of longevity in these couples. Recently, there has been a rise in non-religious premarital counselling which couples have been taking advantage of, and much to their benefit.
4 Reasons Why Premarital Counselling is Important
When we approach a significant purchase, we diligently gather crucial information, secure resources, and prioritize insurance coverage. So, why not apply the same principle to our relationships? Before embarking on a lifelong commitment like marriage, consider acquiring comprehensive insights about your partner. Just as insurance safeguards our investments, premarital counseling can fortify communication between partners and establish a harmonious foundation for the initial stages of marriage.
- To discuss expectations before the wedding.
Many couples meet their end when their expectations of each other and the marriage aren’t met. For example, if you want children in the future but your partner does not share the same desire, addressing this difference becomes crucial before embarking on marriage. It’s essential to discuss and potentially negotiate other significant matters during premarital counseling as well, such as finances, division of labor, spirituality, personal perspectives on marriage, the balance between partnership and individuality, and even considerations about where you will reside together.
- To have an outside and objective opinion.
A premarital counselor often possesses many years of experience in both the fields of counseling and relationships. Bringing your premarital issues, doubts, or concerns to an experienced counselor can assist couples in viewing their challenges from multiple angles, providing insightful perspectives, and illuminating areas that require improvement.
To clear the air.
Premarital counseling, along with all other forms of counseling, provides a safe space where you and your partner can openly discuss issues that often escalate into arguments. This environment is free of judgment, facilitating the search for solutions to your challenges. A qualified and attuned premarital counselor can understand both perspectives on the issue and collaborate with you and your partner to identify the core of a problem that might otherwise persist in your future marriage.
- To strengthen your bond with your partner.
By initiating open communication with your partner during premarital counseling, you establish a precedent for communication throughout your future marriage. If you cultivate a method to express your needs, desires, expectations, and concerns with your partner—like learning to ride a bike—it will progressively become easier and eventually second nature as you share your life together. Addressing challenging topics in premarital counseling can foster greater synchronization between you and your partner in all facets of your relationship.
Premarital counseling is a valuable service that deserves consideration and dedicated exploration before you exchange your vows. Amid the hustle and bustle of wedding preparations, the significance of premarital counseling can sometimes be overshadowed. Yet, it’s essential to recognize that while the costs associated with your wedding day – services, decorations, attire, guests, and food – are concentrated within that single day, the enduring relationship and bond you share with your partner will span a lifetime. As the celebrations wind down and the honeymoon phase concludes, the true journey begins. Prepare for the path ahead by investing in premarital counseling, which equips you to navigate challenges and triumphs together.
At C.S. Counselling and Consulting Services, we specialize in offering private individual, couples’, and family counseling services. Our focus spans marital issues, depression, anxiety, alcohol and substance abuse, as well as guidance through legal proceedings while nurturing a healthy sense of self. Serving both call-in and referred clients, we extend our services in English and Hindi, delivered by RSW-registered professionals. Our goal at C.S. Counselling and Consulting Services is to collaboratively empower you and your loved ones, fostering clarity and cultivating coping skills during times that may otherwise seem stressful and daunting.